Happy (Spiritual) Fathers Day

From Fathom Magazine - On Father’s Day, spiritual fathers without biological children are easily overlooked. They witness the holiday celebrations of biological fathers, and Satan’s lie strengthens in their hearts and minds: “If you don’t have physical children, you won’t make a difference.”

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Is it really better to marry than burn with desire?

From Fathom Magazine - Today, more Christian young adults are postponing marriage or considering never marrying than ever before, and the church at large fears plummeting marriage percentages and the declining birth rates that follow. As those numbers soften, their refrain booms louder: “If abstinent singleness isn’t easy for you, don’t worry. Just get married.” Armed with 1 Corinthians 7:9, they plead with the under-thirty crowd, “PLEASE. Get married.”

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The Case for Vocational Singleness

From Christianity Today - How can our churches raise up more kingdom workers to heal our communities with undivided attention? Our churches need to become places where young adults genuinely discern whether God is calling them to vocational singleness or Christian marriage.

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Gay People, the Holy Spirit, and the Church

Watch this three-part series about Gay People, the Holy Spirit, and the Church. We explore the harmful ways Christians in the past have used the Holy Spirit as a weapon against gay people, key questions about the Holy Spirit and sexual orientation change, how the Holy Spirit ministers to gay people, and how the Holy Spirit yearns to guide the Church.

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Can Anglicans in North America Offer Something Better Than Gay Marriage?

The congregations that would become the ACNA endured decades of TEC slowly (or not so slowly) abandoning orthodoxy on many fronts, but sexual ethics served as the breaking point. At least in the eyes of this cradle Anglican, a belief that God had something better to offer gay people than gay marriage was at the very center of the ACNA’s origins. Plus, many perceive the ACNA as the first major group to leave a mainline denomination over gay marriage. For these reasons, fulfilling our commitment to offering gay people a viable path for thriving according to God’s wisdom is central to our credibility. To put it simply, many people have been waiting to see if we meant what we promised or if we just didn’t like gay people.

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COVID–19 Targets Single Christians

Our necessary social distancing and church cancelations have eliminated the primary ways widows, single parents, divorcees, and those called to singleness for the Lord experience family in the body of Christ. Single Christians rely on community groups and worship services to meet most of their needs for human connection in healthy ways. Coronavirus has left single Christians feeling even more alone and empty than usual. But our churches can do something about it.

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How to Provide the Sacrament of Family to Single People

What happens when single people don’t have family to turn to? A 2017 study found that single people were less likely to rebound from doubt and more likely to lose their faith. While 65% of Christians have doubted for some period of time, the most common response is for Christians to seek comfort from their families. Yet without this safety and solidarity in the home, single adults are twice as likely to lose their faith in the face of serious doubt.

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Chick-fil-A Won't Save the Church

“What do you think about this Chick-fil-A thing?” Those were the first words out of my mentor’s mouth when we met, and for good reason. Chick-fil-A’s announcement that it would stop donating to groups who don’t support gay marriage is relevant to my work, but for the wrong reasons.

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Shame Watching a Football Game

For the first twenty years of my life, I believed that being gay—merely experiencing same-sex attraction—was bad. I believed that I should feel shame and embarrassment each time I find myself attracted to another man. Because I believed those things for twenty years, my automatic reaction to finding the football player attractive was shame.

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