Should you treat your gay friend like someone of the opposite sex? Naomi Vacaro and I recently discussed this and other questions in a conversation about faith and sexuality. I get this question a lot.

Why is body shame more common among gay men? What lies is body shame telling? How can gay men defang those lies with self-awareness and healthy connection?

What does idolatry of romance look like? How can Christians respond by right-sizing expectations of marriage, raising expectations of friendship, investing in thicker family in the body of Christ, and offering greater support for vocational singleness?

My hope for the Church is that gay celibate Christians would find real family. What kind of family are we all made for? How can vocational singles, regardless of sexual orientation, build the permanent family they need?

Tim Lewis and Christelle Lerryn had me on the Oh No Not Another Live Show to talk about the intersection of faith and sexuality, mental health among LGBT+ people, and modern monasticism.

I went on the Pop Culture Catechism Podcast with Mike Tenney to talk about the romance idolatry in the tv show Schitt's Creek and what Christians can learn from the show.

As we celebrate Valentine’s Day nears, I reflect on the meaning of Christian marriage by recalling my toast at my brother’s recent wedding. The toast begins with some personal notes and focuses on the hope-giving nature of Christian marriage at 3:05 in the video.

When consulting with churches about better 1-on-1 ministry to gay people, I often get the same questions. Check out Part 1 of Top 10 Questions on LGBTQ+ Topics.

Watch this seminar exploring the following questions: How were celibate, childless people marginalized in the Old Testament? What promises were made to childless celibates? How did Jesus fulfill those promises? How might that shape the ways we think about our sexualities today?

Watch this interview with Lorinda Pretorius (a Christian Sexologist in South Africa and host of the Chasing Something Podcast) where we discuss singleness and intimacy.

Watch this video exploring how can churches help those called to vocational singleness thrive with reasonable effort (regardless of sexual orientation).

Did Jesus talk about gay sex? That's 1 of 9 arguments for gay-affirming theology I tackled in a seminar in 2020. Watch this preview and get access to the full teaching.

Watch this video interview with Samuel Perez of the Christian in Progress Podcast . He describes himself as an ex-gay Christian and a former gay stripper. He asked, "If a Christian dies without repenting of gay sex, does he go Hell?" My answer, "No!"

From Fathom Magazine - On Father’s Day, spiritual fathers without biological children are easily overlooked. They witness the holiday celebrations of biological fathers, and Satan’s lie strengthens in their hearts and minds: “If you don’t have physical children, you won’t make a difference.”

Listen to this podcast episode of Preston Sprinkle’s Theology in the Raw Podcast where we explore the following questions: Humans can live without sex, but we can’t live without love, intimacy, and community? So where does this leave Christian who are gay, who are also pursuing celibacy as a vocation?

Watch this video seminar exploring whether the gospel is good news for gay people. What do I believe, why do I hold those beliefs, and what should Church do differently?

Watch this video seminar from Valentine's Day when I joined the Boston Fellows to explore how God's call to vocational singleness challenges the idol of romance in our cities and churches.

Watch this recording of St. Bartholomew Episcopal Church’s Theology on Tap where I led a discussion about discernment and vocational singleness.

Are gay people thriving according to God’s wisdom in your church? Watch this video about five common challenges churches face and five proven strategies for becoming churches where LGB people flourish according to a traditional sexual ethic.

Watch this recording of a toast I gave for my brother and sister-in-law, praying that their marriage embodies and displays God’s mysterious love in ways that makes it easier for them and the people around them to know God’s love.