Welcome to my closet
Being the safe place for questions and conversations with same-sex attracted people is an overwhelming honor.
Christians have made God's wisdom unconvincing
How can we make a historic sexual ethic convincing for non-Christians and marginally-Christian gay people?
My answer: You can't.
At least not anytime soon.
Do historic sexual ethics cause suicide?
Does historic sexual ethics cause suicide? The short answer: No, and there's scientific evidence to prove it. Scientific studies have found that…
Christians, "coming out" doesn't mean this...
Many choose to share on National Coming Out Day about parts of their story they've been afraid to share. If you're a Christian, know that when someone "comes out", it doesn't have to mean any of the following…
Should Christians attend gay weddings?
Should Christians attend gay weddings? I recently joined Pastor David Hannah for a conversation with parents at the Church at West Franklin, a campus of Brentwood Baptist Church. We fielded lots of questions, including the perennial question about whether Christians should attend gay weddings.
If I don't condemn, am I condoning?
If I don't condemn, am I condoning? Here's a better question: why do some Christians feel the need to condemn? I think they're afraid. We recently discussed this and more on the Authentically Us Podcast.
Should you treat your gay friend like someone of the opposite sex?
Should you treat your gay friend like someone of the opposite sex? Naomi Vacaro and I recently discussed this and other questions in a conversation about faith and sexuality. I get this question a lot.
Naming & Caring for Gay Male Body Shame
Why is body shame more common among gay men? What lies is body shame telling? How can gay men defang those lies with self-awareness and healthy connection?
Gay Christian Victim Mentality (on the Rick Lee James Podcast)
Help protect gay Christians from victim mentality. I went on the Voices in My Head Podcast with Rick Lee James to talk about faith and sexuality, including the barriers to gay Christian face to thriving according to God's wisdom.
“Coming out” during Pride Month
Many choose to "come out"—to share with others about their sexual orientation for the first time—during pride month. What does it mean for someone to come out? Why do they come out? And how can Christian respond with God's love and wisdom?
LGBT+ Mental Health on the Oh No Not Another Live Show
Tim Lewis and Christelle Lerryn had me on the Oh No Not Another Live Show to talk about the intersection of faith and sexuality, mental health among LGBT+ people, and modern monasticism.
Schitt's Creek idolizes romance
I went on the Pop Culture Catechism Podcast with Mike Tenney to talk about the romance idolatry in the tv show Schitt's Creek and what Christians can learn from the show.
Disciple the Queer Generation
A recent study found that 39% of Gen Zers identify as LGBTQ. In the past, Christian parents have defaulted to doubting the sexual identity of teens, leading to destructive results. What if instead, parents responded calmly, "So you're queer? Alright! God's not surprised, and His wisdom is still clear and very good for you!"
Top 10 Q’s about LGBT+ Topics
When consulting with churches about better 1-on-1 ministry to gay people, I often get the same questions. Check out Part 1 of Top 10 Questions on LGBTQ+ Topics.
Gay Christian canaries in the Coal Mine
Listen to this episode of the Sola-darity Podcast where Bridget Gee and I to talk about vocational singleness and LGBT+ topics.
Church Support for Vocational Singleness
Watch this video exploring how can churches help those called to vocational singleness thrive with reasonable effort (regardless of sexual orientation).
The gay-kid-friendly church I wish I'd had
Listen to this episode of the My Faithful Ally Podcast where Barney Miles and I dream about the churches we wish we had grown up in as gay kids (and what we hope churches become).
From Involuntary Celibacy to Thriving
Check out this transcript about the challenges of involuntary celibacy for gay Christians committed to a traditional sexual ethic and how they can embrace and thrive in their celibacy.
Responding to Progressive Sexual Ethics Arguments
Did Jesus talk about gay sex? That's 1 of 9 arguments for gay-affirming theology I tackled in a seminar in 2020. Watch this preview and get access to the full teaching.
Does failing to repent of gay sex send you to Hell?
Watch this video interview with Samuel Perez of the Christian in Progress Podcast . He describes himself as an ex-gay Christian and a former gay stripper. He asked, "If a Christian dies without repenting of gay sex, does he go Hell?" My answer, "No!"